While you search online for that unique lady…the one of your dreams…your soul-mate…the other half of yourself, you can do a lot of things right.  Sadly, it is possible to, also, do a lot of things wrong….problems that will ensure failure and a broken heart.   Out in the “real” world, being threatening, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all components for success.  Nevertheless, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and off line, too, for that matter. 

There is a big difference concerning being bullying or sure and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive…maybe even, scary.  Try to understand that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship growing at a slow but stable pace.  Persistence is the key. 

No one is perfect.  We are all flawed in some way or another…and that includes you, also.  If you assume the woman to be totally perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed.  Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing.  Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady you are interested in is not just fine.  It won’t happen.  Expect flaws and just deal with them.  Decide the ones you can live with and those you can’t. 

Little white lies and false fronts won’t work.  Be honest right from the start of a relationship.  Write your profile.  Make it fascinating but don’t make fake statements.  The fact will come out sooner or later anyway.  If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure. 

Remember…don’t be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front.